As wonderful as this is, more and more I feel there are no true introverts or extroverts, just people who move heavily lean towards one or the other. I feel this is especially true about myself.
When I read the bit about introverts, I was thinking how true this is for me, but I feel the points about extroverts are equally true.
Honestly, these points aren’t opposite, as the labels of introvert and extrovert sound. They’re just sort of…different, and moreover, interlinked— Respecting someones privacy is an expression of respecting someones independence.
Also, a lot of these are just…not being a dick to another person rules. Introvert 2 and 8. Who the fuck would do that to their friend/partner? Really?
I dunno almost all of these apply to me, but circumstances, mood and my level of personal security dictate how I will feel.
There are constants though.
It is always a good idea to never, ever fucking interrupt me. Not just because it makes me hate you, but because it /really/ makes me hate you, especially if you do it over and over. If it’s done to me in a group setting, by multiple people, I tend to get very cowed and nervous and think that people don’t care and get very neurotic about it. If it’s done to me by a few people, in a one on one setting, or in a group setting when I am honestly fed up with the situation, I will tell people to stop cutting me off and I will not be kind about it. It is rude, disrespectful and selfish. Interjecting is one thing, but to completely derail someones thought to either correct them or disagree when they weren’t even done explaining their position, I cannot fucking stand that shit.
In conclusion, I guess for me, people who are introverts or extroverts, everyone is a mix. I mean, in most cases, people who I know who say they are introverts, are only like that around new people, or in circumstances that make them uncomfortable. When they are around people they know they are some of the most extroverted, verbal, expressive and willful people I know. I think everyone is like that though. And I think that everyone has times when regardless of external influences, they simply feel more at ease being either introverted or extroverted, and this will shift back and forth.
I think a better namesake for these would be “How to care for someone who is feeling more introverted” and “How to care for someone who is feeling more extroverted”
I’m aware that many people will say that of course introverts are more extroverted around people they feel comfortable with, or of course extroverts will have bouts of introversion. I will reply that I do not deal in absolutes, and I do not agree with labels due to their tone of finality, therefore I disagree with the very act of calling someone an introvert or an extrovert because it inherently denies the changeable nature of the individual, which is very beautiful, organic and natural. To lash labels onto people is a mirco-event of limiting them into one perception of them, rather than the cognitive whole of them. Taking the extrovert alone, one denies the quiet introspection which lies beneath the expression and vivacity, and to take the introvert alone, one denies the fire and passion which smolders within.
If you combine these, they make a great template for how to be a respectful, caring individual to another individual. Employing both effectively requires observation, knowledge and wisdom of the individual in question, to know when is most appropriate. I would say to treat someone erring more as an introvert upon meeting is a fail safe because it is more respectful and allows both parties the opportunity to listen and learn. Once you know otherwise, treat them accordingly.
Be thoughtful, be kind. Know others. Rather than taking a set of rules to heart which supposedly encapsulates their personality, take their heart to heart and know them truly.
Or perhaps I’m just crazy. Some people cling to their labels. For security, for solidarity, for whatever reason. I dunno. But when someone unabashedly calls me an introvert or an extrovert, it really irritates me.
(Source: monalisamusings, via robotbrothersid)